Monday, March 29, 2010

The Monday Melee « fracas

The Monday Melee « fracas
I must write - so here's a new Monday Melee from Fracas - who has an amazing blog by the way.

1. The Magnificent: Name someone you absolutely adore, and tell us why. My son CW. He's 4 now and getting to be so big and self efficient. Today I made him put on his own socks and shoes and said he had to at least try zipping his coat. When he did it - he yelled "Look! I don't need Mama or Daddy anymore!" Which of course cuts like a knife, but he was so excited to do something on his own. He's also full of generosity. Anytime we buy something he wants to buy it for Andrew and Austin as well, older boys who live next door. If we have dinner, he invites them in too. I love this trait, so I think I should start cooking bigger dinners. lol

2. The Muddy: Tell us something about life you just don’t “get”. Why it's so hard to do something off the normal path. I quit working to raise my boys, and my loving husband agreed. But here we are with never enough money. And so many people who blame me. What the hell am I doing sitting on my ass without a job? Well the economy sucks, so that is part of it. But mostly, I freeze up at the thought of putting my boys in daycare. It scares the hell out of me to put them in someone else's hands. I don't know those people...not really. School will be hard for me. But what I don't "get" is why it all has to be such a battle to raise my kids the way my husband and I want to.

3. The Magnetic: Name something or someone good (or bad) you’re drawn to and you just can’t help it. Tell us if you want to change this or not. The Sims 3...or the Sims in general. I love it, it's a waste of my life but I just love it. I can play that for hours...and I did when I was single with no kids. lol I guess I wish it wasn't such a draw for me, after all what do I really get from it but losing more time?

4. The Mainstay: Who or what is something you just can’t live without? Why? I cannot live without the Andersons. They are the best family we have. Always there for us, no matter what. And without judgement. Not to say they don't have their opinions and express them, but they support what we chose to do no matter what. They help us, financially and emotionally. And most of all, they show me traits that I aspire to.

5. The Masquerade: Tell us something about yourself we wouldn’t already know. I can comfortablye wear little boy shoes size 5. I mean they really fit me well. When I buy sandals or boots, I look there first. Just wait until you see me stylin' in my new light-up Power Rangers! lol

6. The Mettle: Tell us about a time you showed courage in yourself, or tell us what you wish you had the courage to do. To continue to learn software developing on my own. It will take a lot of time, effor and courage. I'm stuck because of fear I know that much. Is it something I can learn on my own, who can I get mentoring from, who can tell me where to start? I'm afraid that I'll be frozen by fear and just wittle away my life as the boys grow.


  1. Don't you EVER, EVER let someone make you feel bad for making the choice to stay home with your boys!

    Yes, times are hard and money is tight, but having their mommy with them is more important!

    So to "those" people who put you down and make you feel bad, I say, STICK IT!!

  2. First I love love love that you do the Melee :-)

    CW is definitely adorable how thoughtful he is!

    You know it's hard all around to go against the current "norm" that is parents both abandon their children to work. It seems having one stay home is only for the rich and heck a lot of them still get nannies! You keep plucking away at ways to save $$ and using your talents and dreams you can come up with a creative way to bring money to your family that allows you to still be available! Maybe we should talk about it more and help each other out in that area!!

    One thing is for sure the Andersons sound like a wonderful blessing to your family :-)


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